We lose jobs, friendship fades away, and relationships dissolve. We face hurts, loss, disappointments and heartache. Why?
Why is it that we try to do the right thing, we have the best of intentions, give wholeheartedly, and are authentic, but bad things still happen? Or, things do not unfold how we imagined.
Bad things happen to good people, and there are several reasons why. One reason is to teach us about ourselves. To test our commitments that we made to ourselves, to challenge us to grow beyond our current state and to establish personal boundaries. So often we look at tragedy or hurt as a bad thing, but we never stop to assess the situation and look at the positive outcomes.
I’ve learned there is value in everything. I’m not sad it’s over, I’m happy that it happened. I hate how it happened. I’m not even upset that I endured pain, but I’m excited about how it shaped me. Cutting and pruning both feel the same, but pruning is designed for growth, not your demise.
The next time you ask yourself, “Why did this happen?” change that “why” to a “what.” What did I learn? What did I gain? What can I do differently? A tragedy is making a mistake, but never learning the lesson.