We can all inventory our lives and discover things we could have done differently, opportunities we should have taken advantage of, along with situations where we weren’t true to ourselves.

Are the “wish I could’ve, should’ve, would’ves” enough? The answer is NO! Many times we treat the symptom rather than curing the cause. Instead of reflection, may I recommend self-examination? It’s time to explore the whys behind what we do. If we don’t, we are destined to remain in the same cycle.

Through self-examination, I discovered I consistently gave to my detriment, I walked away without shutting doors behind me, and I was a part of the supporting cast instead of the leading lady in my own life. I found it was ok to be selfish when I needed to be. I shouldn’t give more of my time, love, talents and attention than I was comfortable giving. I should end the relationships that I left behind. And most of all, I gave myself permission to live!

I encourage you not to just reflect, but to examine, remove, replenish, and become the YOU that you are proud of and others are honored to know. We can’t change the past, but we can plan the future!